I had known when this whole thing started 2 years ago when Mikey was diagnosed that my 2 best friends would be there no matter what. They they would put whatever feelings they had aside and be there for me. That the topic of 'kids having cancer' would be uncomfortable for them but they would be there because they were my best friends. They would let me cry and not make me talk about it until I was ready. They would take 2 minutes to call, even when they were busy, to see how Mikey's chemo day went. They would be there to go out for dinner or a quick drink on a night that I could get out even if it was last minute because they would know I needed to get out and if I could get out we should go. They would ask about Mike but not push for details until I was ready to give them because they know it takes me some 'processing time' to get it all together before I can share it. They would have 'normal' conversations with me that didn't revolve around cancer because I am still me and not just a 'cancer mom'. They have not disappointed me. They have been amazing. They have done all of that and more. For the 2 of them, I could not be more grateful.
Not all of my experiences with friends have been bad, of course! Some old friends that I had lost touch with, people who were acquaintances and people who were strangers to me when Mikey was diagnosed, have become new friends. They have been blessings when I need them. They know I hate asking for help and they know I won't ask for anything but they know that I need support. They are there. They call and e-mail just to say Hi and check in on us. They text. They offer rides to Sloan. They bring meals, desserts or a bottle of wine. They offer to babysit. They just call to chat about things that are not cancer related. I appreciate them so very much and can't tell you how I have gotten through days because of them. They have become friends in every sense of the word.